Saturday, January 23, 2010
My father
Another subject my friends bring up. And the one I hate the most. They all have their fathers in their life. Here's what they say" Well you should make an effort" "Well maybe he wasn't ready" "Give him a chance" blah blah blah so on and so forth. And it drives me crazy! Ugh! Sometimes I just want to yell it's none of your business but I don't want to be rude. They just don't know what it's like. Then when I say I don't want to talk about it. They go ballistic and say"fine don't except my help, be stubborn". And I think in the back off my mind how in the world am I being stubborn. It's not the kids job to make the effort, it's the parents. In this case anyway. This is totally off subject but I just thought of this. My friends want me to dress like them, have a dad like them, and live where they live. I think since I'm the ONLY one different technically... out of the friends who pester me about these subjects. I think they want me to the same and not be who I am. Ugh.. Sounds right. Correct me if i'm wrong.
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This is a subject that has many different opinions from different sides. There are pros and cons, but when it comes down to it, the decision is yours and yours alone.
ReplyDeleteYou are right; the effort should be on the part of the parent, not the child. Your father knows you live close to him, and all he would have to do is say the word and arrangements can be made for him to be in your life. He never made an effort before, but that doesn't meant he doesn't want to. Many men who are fathers don't know how to be one, and didn't have very good role models to set an example. Your father's mom is making an effort by writing to you every Christmas, but that isn't an effort by your father, is it? Again, as I mentioned, this subject as many pros and cons. You are not sure at this age what you want to do, and that is exactly how you should feel.
Your friends mean well but at the age of 12, they aren't very well equipped to give you advice. Your life isn't their life; they don't know how you think or what you feel, and it goes the same for you with regard to them.
Dealing with these issues is a part of life, dear Tanner. You will experience many different people, with different opinions, demeanors and personalities. We are all different, and we all handle things differently. Your friends aren't mature enough to respect your wishes, although they ought to try it. My advice to you is to stand your ground, and don't weaken on your stance.
Thanks Jacq
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